Hi everybody,
I started doing the exercises from several courses, regularly. I felt like they are "so compatible with what I need" and "just exactly what I was looking for", and so on.
Then problems started.
I imagined that I will just do the exercises, just finally heal, send a big thank you letter/ etc, and move on with my life. No! What happens is that it looks like I am doing everything I can to twist the exercices and materials - in a way to destroy myself with them: I do the exercises too much, too often, overdoing them, expecting too much from myself, till I exhaust my brain so it can't function well, and it sends me terrible anxiety and panic attacks (and it is right). And it is getting worse, I'm nearly psychotic, and I have to stop this.
Yes, I know the answer: stop this mental self-harm addiction, establish boundaries, use the exercises in a way they meant to be used. Take a break now. Forgive yourself. It's OK, you have this desire to solve the puzzle of the past with this behavior, or whatever. It's OK to feel this way, BUT don't act on it, look behind it, see it for what it is. Look at the present reality.
Yes... OK.
It's just very, very hard!!
But I can do this.
I can set boundaries in my head, I can start using exercises/ materials in a way that is really helping me. I know I can do this. I have enough knowledge on how to do these things, my intuition is telling me the right things now, I can do this, I just have to be really strong now, make a reality check, and let go of some illusions.
I started doing the exercises from several courses, regularly. I felt like they are "so compatible with what I need" and "just exactly what I was looking for", and so on.
Then problems started.
I imagined that I will just do the exercises, just finally heal, send a big thank you letter/ etc, and move on with my life. No! What happens is that it looks like I am doing everything I can to twist the exercices and materials - in a way to destroy myself with them: I do the exercises too much, too often, overdoing them, expecting too much from myself, till I exhaust my brain so it can't function well, and it sends me terrible anxiety and panic attacks (and it is right). And it is getting worse, I'm nearly psychotic, and I have to stop this.
Yes, I know the answer: stop this mental self-harm addiction, establish boundaries, use the exercises in a way they meant to be used. Take a break now. Forgive yourself. It's OK, you have this desire to solve the puzzle of the past with this behavior, or whatever. It's OK to feel this way, BUT don't act on it, look behind it, see it for what it is. Look at the present reality.
Yes... OK.
It's just very, very hard!!
But I can do this.
I can set boundaries in my head, I can start using exercises/ materials in a way that is really helping me. I know I can do this. I have enough knowledge on how to do these things, my intuition is telling me the right things now, I can do this, I just have to be really strong now, make a reality check, and let go of some illusions.