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Ever since I discovered the narcissistic personality, my life as changed.
Acceptance is the first step and the hardest, I want to share some thoughts of my progress and the best things I did to cut away most of the narcissistic problem in my life !
I'm a optimistic guy and I believed everyone can change. To make the problem goes away I had thoughts like:
" Everyone can change, he (the narc) can too."
" The problem is in my mind, I need to re frame and the pain will go away "
" Violence only generates violence. "
" I will not become like him, I'm a good peaceful guy "
" I will PROVE him I'm worth and special. "
I had to challenge some core believes I had, if you don't do that, people will take advantage of it and abuse you.
I still believe on those, but there are other situations.
" Everyone can change, but not the abuser in my life time. "
" He don't want to change, and I'm not the right person to change this abuser. "
" My problem can be external, and I should do actions on other to make go away. "
" Violence for self defense is justifiable "
" I know exactly How I am, What I want, and I'm unique "
" I have no need to prove or justify anyone anything, except myself. "
If you dig even deeper, I wanted the world to fit my paradigms, and the abuser was always taking advantage of that:
- My natural fear of conflict, for been a pacifist.
- My "hero syndrome" trying to save and change everyone for better.
- My blindness to not want to see the evil in other, only the better side.
- My constant desire for acceptance of other peoples, to define myself.
I still have a long way to go, but I can say I'm practically cured!
Hope I'm vaccinated too from this awful diseases the narcs give us.
The scars will never go away.
What believes you have and never questioned ? What changed in your mind to fight back ?
Can you find more holes in my new life paradigms ? =D
Acceptance is the first step and the hardest, I want to share some thoughts of my progress and the best things I did to cut away most of the narcissistic problem in my life !
I'm a optimistic guy and I believed everyone can change. To make the problem goes away I had thoughts like:
" Everyone can change, he (the narc) can too."
" The problem is in my mind, I need to re frame and the pain will go away "
" Violence only generates violence. "
" I will not become like him, I'm a good peaceful guy "
" I will PROVE him I'm worth and special. "
I had to challenge some core believes I had, if you don't do that, people will take advantage of it and abuse you.
I still believe on those, but there are other situations.
" Everyone can change, but not the abuser in my life time. "
" He don't want to change, and I'm not the right person to change this abuser. "
" My problem can be external, and I should do actions on other to make go away. "
" Violence for self defense is justifiable "
" I know exactly How I am, What I want, and I'm unique "
" I have no need to prove or justify anyone anything, except myself. "
If you dig even deeper, I wanted the world to fit my paradigms, and the abuser was always taking advantage of that:
- My natural fear of conflict, for been a pacifist.
- My "hero syndrome" trying to save and change everyone for better.
- My blindness to not want to see the evil in other, only the better side.
- My constant desire for acceptance of other peoples, to define myself.
I still have a long way to go, but I can say I'm practically cured!
Hope I'm vaccinated too from this awful diseases the narcs give us.
The scars will never go away.
What believes you have and never questioned ? What changed in your mind to fight back ?
Can you find more holes in my new life paradigms ? =D
