I think it can sometimes be difficult to decide whether what we faced as children was in fact emotional abuse or whether it was normal and we're just sensitive. Sometimes when I read people's posts on here, and they describe something similar to what I experienced, I feel validated by it. So I would like to know what phrases people heard as children that you found to be invalidating. Perhaps at the time it seemed normal but looking back you can see how mean that was, how crushing to your self-esteem, how it made you feel unloved.
Phrases I used to hear were "What's the matter with you?! Why do you have to be so difficult?"
"Your sister's not upset!"
"You know how you can go off people...."
(When my brother hurt me) "Oh, he didn't mean it."
"If you eat any more you'll be sick."
(In a tone of disgust if I had a runny nose) "Where's your hanky?!"
(I know I'm on the mild end of the spectrum of the negative conditioning that people experienced as children, and some people's stories are so much worse, but I did feel unloved, and I would like to hear other people's stories of feeling unloved....) xxxx
Phrases I used to hear were "What's the matter with you?! Why do you have to be so difficult?"
"Your sister's not upset!"
"You know how you can go off people...."
(When my brother hurt me) "Oh, he didn't mean it."
"If you eat any more you'll be sick."
(In a tone of disgust if I had a runny nose) "Where's your hanky?!"
(I know I'm on the mild end of the spectrum of the negative conditioning that people experienced as children, and some people's stories are so much worse, but I did feel unloved, and I would like to hear other people's stories of feeling unloved....) xxxx