ucla seminar q

hi all!  i'm not really sure if this post belongs in the general section or not?  anyhoo, I just watched Richards latest vid: the ucla seminar.  freaking awesome as always.  I just wanted to post a suggestion or realization I had.  someone asked why the npd destroys nons in the discard.  rich answered that it makes them feel powerful. yes! totally.  gratification...BUT... the covert npd tries hard to make the non look crazy in their abuse so they can also take on the role of the victim to outsiders. ie; 'look at what a crazy partner I had and what I've had to endure'.