by Monkeys'n'Fireworks Sat Aug 06, 2016 6:56 am
Absolutely. Shared healing work is powerful. Like Pete Walker says in his book, healing socially is so super important because our wounds are social as well. Learning intimacy and vulnerability is profound for healing people like ourselves.
+1 on John Bradshaw's work. The "
Homecoming" video series is available on Youtube in it's entirety, definitely worth a watch. His other major book
Healing the Shame that Binds You is worth reading too. He's got a wonderfully warm and human way of presenting all this stuff so that it's simple and easy to understand. He speaks from the heart.
Richard also recommended
Pia Mellody's work, which there is a lot of on Youtube as well. The clarity of what she has to say about family systems has been really useful and powerful in my self healing work. She's a 'big name' in the 12 Step / ACOA world and does a lot of work focusing on codependency in family systems. Beautiful and profound stuff.
Another book that is commonly recommended is Bessel Van Der Kolk's
The Body Keeps the Score. It seems that many people get a lot out of this book, and find it very validating. He spends a lot of time describing in depth the kinds of traumas and healing processes his clients have gone through to illustrate his points. Personally, I wasn't thrilled with it in terms of feeling like it had some clear, actionable solutions that were new to me, but that's just my bias. Still a worthy read on your journey.
This may sound odd, but part of the way I became aware of my own family's dynamics was by reading
The Truth by Neil Strauss, which is a great book about his healing journey, coming at it from the angle of sex addiction. He did a lot of reading during his healing phase, and left a couple pretty good lists of related books worth looking into in terms of healing trauma:
https://www.neilstrauss.com/neil/healing-trauma/http://www.neilstrauss.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/TheTruth_ReadingList.pdfHope that helps a little bit