I regularly loose it and write long angry emails to my last narc. I feel really guilty and bad about it afterwards. It's not how I want to conduct myself. I don't recognise myself, and I feel stupid because it is totally meaningless to express how I feel to a Narc.
I just can't seem to cope with my rage in any other way. Does anyone here have any tips for how to sit with the rage without acting out on it in any way?
It's not that I call him names or anything like that, I do express myself fairly appropriately considering the circumstances, but I shouldn't have any contact with him at all and I shouldn't let him know how angry I am since that will only be Narc supply for him and I don't want to enable his NPD, and my experience won't make any sense to him anyways. I just make myself look overly emotional and "hysterical", which I am of course....I really want to conduct myself better than to lash out in anger towards anyone, Narc or not.
It's the first time in my life that I'm lashing out like this. I hate how changed I've become from being in a relationship with a Narc. I have never been this aggressive before and I don't like to be out of control. I feel like a threatened animal that is cornered and I lash out in self defence but the only thing I achieve is to harm myself more....I have never before had to handle feelings that are this strong and in many ways I'm coping very well considering how incredibly rageful I feel towards him.
Ideas and suggestions are welcome!
I just can't seem to cope with my rage in any other way. Does anyone here have any tips for how to sit with the rage without acting out on it in any way?
It's not that I call him names or anything like that, I do express myself fairly appropriately considering the circumstances, but I shouldn't have any contact with him at all and I shouldn't let him know how angry I am since that will only be Narc supply for him and I don't want to enable his NPD, and my experience won't make any sense to him anyways. I just make myself look overly emotional and "hysterical", which I am of course....I really want to conduct myself better than to lash out in anger towards anyone, Narc or not.
It's the first time in my life that I'm lashing out like this. I hate how changed I've become from being in a relationship with a Narc. I have never been this aggressive before and I don't like to be out of control. I feel like a threatened animal that is cornered and I lash out in self defence but the only thing I achieve is to harm myself more....I have never before had to handle feelings that are this strong and in many ways I'm coping very well considering how incredibly rageful I feel towards him.
Ideas and suggestions are welcome!